Tips for a Successful First Date

Far too often it seems that men complain about how women are complicated, fickle and mysterious creatures that they will never understand and can never please. Finding the right gal can be a troublesome affair for many guys.

It isn't all hopeless though. Dating doesn't have to be so rigorous and strained as some people make it out to be. Women aren't so mysterious. Just stick to these guidelines and the first date could end up being the start of something very special.

The perfect first date should be exciting. It should be fun and flirtatious and light hearted. Don't make it out to be more than it really is. Taking that in account, know that grabbing a mocha at Starbuck's really doesn't cut it. Going on a date means you fetch your date at her place and take her out for dinner or a show.

A considerate man will make plans in advance. This doesn't mean you have to spend a month planning that first date. That would simply be foolish and frankly obsessive. It simply means you should have something thought out; if it requires a reservation make one. Women like to be treated like they're busier and bigger than they really might be; they like a fuss to be made about them. Make plans and then add to the significance of the date by building up the anticipation.

Don't do your lady a disfavor by underestimating her worth. Even if your date is laid back and prefers hiking in the wild to going shopping, do not make plans that are too casual. Typically women expect men to invest in things that they value, either with time, cash, enthusiasm, or creativity. If you don't follow this expectation, do expect to be brushed aside. Your actions show a woman who you are, remember that.

The confirmation call is vital. Remember to call your date and confirm that you will come pick her up on Friday at 8. Do not keep your lady waiting. This will cause unnecessary fretting and stress. A phone call is really easy to make and it's good manners.

Be on time. Don't keep your date waiting. Being late is simply bad manners. You shouldn't be late to an important meeting or should you be late for a first date. It's bad form and it gets your date off on a rocky start. If something comes up and you will be late, remember to pick up the phone and give your lady a heads up.

Flattery in moderation is a good thing. If you really like your lady, don't be afraid to tell her so. But again, practice the time tested measure of moderation. You don't want to come on too strong as that's off putting. Simply saying, 'you look great,' will put you in her good graces.

When it comes to paying the check don't try to be egalitarian. A woman likes being treated. Besides that, she has already spent a mini-fortune in her pre-date preparations (the hair, the shoes, the waxing, etc).

Now if your date doesn't go as expected, be gracious and courteous. Don't offer false hopes of phone calls that will never be made. Tell your date thanks for coming and wish her a goodnight. It's not that hard.

If the date goes well, make sure your date knows you had a good time and set up another date before the night is over. Walk her to her door. Be a gentleman, but take things to the next level if she's willing.

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