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On the Desire to Live and Helpful Hints for Quitting Smoking

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As I thought about helpful hints for quitting smoking this week I could not help but think of my dad, who passed away last week. Now he did not pass away from lung cancer, nor did he smoke any of the days that I ever knew him. However what I could see was that the last few years of his life had been very much bereft of the joy of living.

By the end of his life my father had lost most of the things that had always formed his very happy personality. He could not tell a joke or sing a song. He could not be silly, jump about, or play with the grandchildren. In short he could not do anything except doze in a chair all day and sleep all night. He had all manner of ailments, not the least of which had been diabetes, so even the food he once loved was no longer his to enjoy.

Now this is a blog about helpful hints for quitting smoking. So why do I mention all of this here. Well first I would like to say that this blog is more along the lines of an inquiry, and I don't have all of the answers.

I have some answers to some questions- questions like "How do addictions work?" and "Why do people in general do what they do, in the way that they do it?" And I can make a good stab at helping people one-on-one to shift their behavior. But in the final analysis it is you and no-one else who will or won't quit smoking.

So I mention this about my dad as an inquiry, and because I could see in those last days of his life that the heart and soul had gone out of him. There was nothing left for him to live for. And although he was clearly struggling about letting go of the people he loved, on some level I could see that he had a wish to go.

So I take this into the realm of our inquiry by saying that if you are struggling in your life for some reason, or if you have terminal and ongoing upsets and pain in your life- if you are in short unhappy- how much chance will there be that you will actually quit smoking? You will be living, like my dad, in the confusion, with conflicting desires. And one can hardly argue that smoking is one easy, socially acceptable way to fulfill on some hidden wish to die.

Now I don't claim that everyone who does not quit smoking has a death wish. Far from it. I know the physiological and mental pull that an addiction, any addiction, has on a human being. But I do claim that if your life is not happy, loving, and content- if you are living in some terminal upset, or pain- you'd better deal with it if you want to be successful- regardless of all of my helpful hints for quitting smoking.

My dad, before he became so desperately ill, had a strong love of life and a high level of happiness no matter what his situation was. You can have that too. You can begin to do this by being honest with yourself about the true state of your happiness and then taking the steps to live a life you love. This in turn will increase your will to live. As you do that you can also be using Hypnosis or Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or some other tool to help you to quit smoking. Taken together, I would see this as a good formula. Now living a life of happiness can seem to be a bit elusive. However, it is a subject I speak about in my other blogs, so visit them as well, and they should be a help.

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For more help with your and your families' addicitions visit the sites of well-known expert and Ontology specialist Lorelei F at helpfulhintsforquittingsmoking and at secondhandaddiction